THE Plan

Do you have a PLAN?  Have you written it down?  Was it hard?  Have you had one for long?

My husband and I don't have a plan.  Or a Will in other words.

It's one of those things that you put off and put off.  I mean, seriously, who wants to think about their own death?  And how in the world do you decide what you want for your children if you were to die?  Seriously.  I don't even want it to approach the outer circles of my thoughts. 

But, we've got to be responsible.  Both of our families have "issues", so we'd like to spell things out as clearly as possible.  N0 sense in letting the crazies decide for themselves!  Plus, we're done having children and we've moved into our "forever home".  So, things should be pretty stable from here on out (knock on wood).

Luckily with my husband's job they stress how important having a will is.  Especially for people in law enforcement.  So, they are providing free services to get our wills drawn up.  We have appointments on the 26th.

But, oh, the things we have to think about up until that point.  And the decisions that must be made.  Who will care for the children?  How do we want our vast wealth (insert sarcastic giggle here) split up?  Who will be pissed off the most at our decisions?

Just thinking about those things brings up images of life without me or us.  And it's not pretty.  I'm no saint, but YIKES!  To think of others raising the kids that WE decided to bring into this world.  That WE know best.  That WE have shaped and molded.  Ugh, it's a scary thought.

So, while we're going to be responsible and talk about it and formalize it.  I pray that the kids are old and married with grandchildren of their own before they ever have to see our wills!

Comments

[Mary Ann]

Good for you, making the appointment to set everything up. I am like you. I can't stand thinking about the scenario. But I guess it is good to get it done now so you can have *some* peace of mind.

[bubblewench]

Glad to hear you are doing this. It is important! It's tough, but a 'must do'. Especially with kids! (hubby & I did ours right after we got married but we dont' have kids!)

[Megan@SortaCrunchy]

Oh my gosh. We totally need to do this. We are so bad. *ugh*

Hope all goes well in your discussions!

[Nikki]

Good for you to be doing this. It's so tough but so important. For us it was a hard decision also with the family situation. The kids don't know any of them really since they live so far away. And I can't fathom who could take care of my kids "good enough" to pick. But ultimately you have to pick someone and just hope you never have to use it.

[Suzy]

Oh LORI!!! You're reminding me that I was meant to organise this for this week whilst I was on leave from work, and I forgot!!!!
I feel completely and utterly the same way you do about it all (seriously, I am starting to think we are mind twins!! :-D ) especially about "who to leave the kids to". It is so hard.