I'm sure seeing that title you're thinking this post will be about a couple of single people that are dating. But, it's not. It's about a married couple dating another married couple. And not like that either.
You know how it is when you're single and dating? You try out different people. Some you click with, some you don't. Some you try really hard to like because your friends like them or you know they'd be a good match, but it just doesn't work out.
And when you're dating you usually go to dinner or the movies or other fun things.
Well, I have to say that being a married couple and finding friends to hang out with is much the same. Except harder. Because YOU need to like the couple and so does your spouse. And they BOTH need to like both of you. It's a VERY delicate balance. (Especially when, as a couple you are very different.)
We've been lucky in the past that the people that my husband works with and likes to hang out with have had cool wives that I've enjoyed hanging out with. But, we moved within the last few years and things have changed. He works 60 miles away from our house and most of the people that he works with live closer to work. And he works with a lot of single guys.
We've had a hard time finding other couples that we really mesh with. And that's hard for me because I'm what some call a social butterfly.
We've tried dating some couples. One is a good friend that I work with and her husband. But, my husband just doesn't get along with them very well. We've tried a few couples that he knows from work, but we just don't see them very often.
But, just recently, we've found our "partners". I've actually been hanging out with her for the last three years, we met shortly after we moved here. And her husband is actually in the same profession as my husband, just at a different location. We've gotten together a few times and things have gone well. My husband even contacted her last year to help plan my surprise birthday party!So, us girls have been plotting ways to get together more often.
This weekend we had a BBQ at their house. And things went really well. The guys grilled and talked. The girls drank and talked. The kids destroyed their house, but had fun doing it. We all played some Wii. It was just a nice relaxing time. And EVERYONE enjoyed themselves. My very quiet husband was even texting her this weekend in preparation for the BBQ! It was great!
Now, we have plans to go to the upcoming Metallica concert (ROCK ON!) and camping in June! Let's hope this is the start to a long-term relationship. Because everyone knows good friends are hard to find!
I so know what you mean... it can be hard. Mr. Kaos and I recently acquired a really great couple to hang out with. Low impact, high fun and even though they have no kids they obviously love K.
Posted by: CamiKaos | April 14, 2008 at 09:15 AM
I know what you mean.. kind of. I am not a social butterfly, but we have the same friends in general, so that's very helpful! I can't stand some of Mr. Law's friends, but when they come over they stay in the basement with him. :)
I'm glad you guys found a couple!
ROCK ON at Metallica!
Ride the Lightning! YES!!
Posted by: Sybil Law | April 14, 2008 at 08:59 PM
lucky you....we haven't found a couple that we both like. LOL makes us sound picky, but our real problem is....we are very different from eachother, so it is hard to find a couple that is like that as well. sigh...
Posted by: Corey | April 14, 2008 at 11:21 PM
this is waaaay harder than actually just getting a husband.
we got our couple from school.
there should be a place where you just sign up for them!
Posted by: holly | April 15, 2008 at 04:41 PM
It is SO hard to find good couple friends. We don't have any that we hang out with consistently. *sigh*
Posted by: Megan@SortaCrunchy | April 16, 2008 at 05:32 AM
OMG.. I just read this (Wednesday) and I'm on the exact opposite.. our 'couple' is trying to dump us! LOL!
I'm so glad you guys found your friends. Yes, I do know how hard it is. I'd rather not have friends.
Posted by: bubblewench | April 16, 2008 at 07:27 AM
Finding another couple, that both parties can mesh with, is really, really hard. Good for you that you have been able to do that. My husband and I have not been so lucky...he is not big on the friends thing, I on the other hand, am also a social butterfly....but, have had no luck making friends either
Posted by: Dixiechick | April 16, 2008 at 08:55 AM